Meet Aedy
A trouble maker, a rule breaker, one of kind miracle finder
and a powerful
Badass who can walk through heartbreaks.
ME? I know what I want and I go for it
Thats not how I grew up - My past - my decisions Made me who I am.
Let me give a quick history of who I used to be. I've been abused, laughed at, discarded, alone, betrayed, heartbroken. All of it made me become a survivor. I would say in my head, 'You can’t make me,' 'You can’t break me,' 'I am going to show you,' 'I am going to fix it.' What all this ended up becoming for me is a variation of a badass survivor. I excel being a perfectionist, a self-sufficient loner.
On the opposite end, I also became 'let me hide so no one will notice me, they probably going to hurt me anyway, so I take myself away first. Why bother - why give a chance if it has no future? And the list goes on.
You could say I learned to be strong, brave, unbreakable, to protect, prevent, forecast on everything I do. I ensure that I mitigate problems; no needless harm or pain would affect my heart. That’s how I lived.
How I become the ME that stops ME
My kind Insanity - Doing the same thing over and over again expect different result
My insanity - For years, I’ve found myself arguing with the people I love, feeling lost, unloved, and unappreciated, as if we’re speaking from different worlds.
In business, I’ve desperately tried to get others to do things my way, only to be disappointed and exhausted when they fall short. Yet, I keep repeating the same old patterns, hoping somehow it will work, clinging to the same logic and principles that never seem to fix anything.
This constant struggle has drained the joy from my life. I’m always on edge, anxiously waiting for the next crisis, feeling like there’s a hole in my heart that nothing can fill. I wake up with anxiety, spend the day worrying, and end up irritated, blaming myself for not being able to figure it all out. And then, I do it all over again "Rinse and Repeat".
I wanted to break free from this endless cycle, getting off the Merry-go-around but didn’t know how—until I discovered...
My discovery, what I did not see, did not know
I SEE .... My comfortable prison, invisible chain, kept me in place
I noticed I have compensated in every way to live my life. And this great skill allowed me to survive, even thrive in all the issues of life. Yet, I saw I was not living to smile; I was living to avoid suffering. I was unaware of who I had become. My life was full of 'shoulds,' 'supposed to,' 'have to,' 'must be,' burdened responsibilities, trying to be good enough. None of it provided genuine meaningful smiles on the inside or outside.
When I realized this, I went to work on ME! I realized I AM UNWILLING to pay for that cost anymore. Although I wouldn’t say life was peachy all the time; there are times when I get to see my heart full of joy, love, sparkles. Then there are times when I am fully confronted with how entrenched I am in my way of compensating; unwilling to move an inch lots of times. It is like the analogy would stand on my own long hair and yelling "get ME off my hair"!!
Finding ME
Only "ME" can tell me what to do - How I resisted it and FOUND ME.
How I got off my own hair, walked out of my own prison. There are so many areas I can color myself to be like others, to please others. Wanting what others wanted—a good daughter, a good wife, a good boss, a good person, financial freedom, and great relationships
That’s close in to one area I already shared above. I am smart and a perfectionist, yet I became a loner and a relationship assassin. I could professionally cut off anyone; I was very proud of having armor that protected me and being okay with it. What I didn’t realize was that while I was killing off relationships, I was also killing off parts of myself—my love, my smile, my joy. I numbed my emotions and discounted who I am. I withdrew so I could pretend none of this mattered. In reality, I wanted to be loved, to belong, to laugh, to believe, and to feel alive. This was a blind spot I had no idea existed until a few years ago when I was willing to look. It’s the absurdity I find myself facing—I saw the suffering that I had created for myself.
As I inquired, shared, and talked with others, I discovered how much my blind spot and unwillingness had cost me! I realized how my past experiences and compensating skills had led me to survive rather than truly live. Until I saw it for myself, no matter what others said, I really didn’t get it. I discovered all the opportunities that had been there all along, which I just hadn’t recognized. I found that suffering is a choice, freedom is accessible, power is always within me, and that a smile and happiness are my ultimate sources of aliveness.
My Why
I want people to have what I have, access to being free, to be empowered and to live a life that you cherished and enlivened.
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What I SEE
beyond the noise you think of self. What I hear is the essence of YOUR BEING.
What I Believe
To Show you, NOT tell you. You get to find what truly matters to you, NOT what I think matters to you.
I Play Outside the Sandbox
Create possibilities beyond what you know
People ask me what my coaching style is and how I help my clients
I specialize in transformational heart based coaching; the type of coaching that results in you getting clear what is in your way, and being free and powerful so you pursue what matters to you. I help you see YOU. We get to the essence, the heartbeat, the center of what you truly want.
I listen for what is "missing" and
I listen for what "you don't see".
We often circling at the same circumstance
where you don’t know why you keep doing the same thing over and over again and end up at the same place. With me, you get to work on the unknown; we get to work on the present and the future. There is no advice. It’s not therapy - it's about moving beyond what you know is possible . You get discover your own strength, gifts which you may not even be aware, mastering on expending, allowing, being on what truly matters to you.
THAT’S WHAT I DO!
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Long version - My Why
I now live a life that was never going to happen; one I thought impossible - a life now filled with choices, love, joy, peace, fun, miracles and endless possibilities.
Whenever I try to put My Why into words, it tends to sound grandiose or exaggerated. But in truth, it feels monumental to me in my mind and my heart; to me, it seems larger than life. I scare myself sometimes with the kind of commitment I stand for in my own authenticity of who I already am and who I say I am for my future. Being TRUE is challenging. I have my own blind spots too; so my practice is to allow people to see all of it, my faults, strengths, accomplishments, and insufficiencies - the good, the bad, and the ugly.
I don't want my larger than life possibilities sound like bunch fake bullshit. So, let me put it plainly: "MY WHY" brings me joy and fills my heart! Yep! It puts a bright, shining, sparkly smile on my face! There is nothing more fulfilling than witnessing people finding their joy, happiness and simple peace in their everyday life or finding possibilities while in the middle of a breakdown, middle of argument, middle of loss, middle of a so so "I am okay" life.
I do it for people who can't afford it. I do it for people with a big life purpose. I do it for people who really care about people. I do for people who have genuine authenticity. I do this for a living, but I would do it for a simple smile.
When I am not on my professional sessions, I do this when I walk around the neighborhood. I do this when I meet new people. I do this at restaurants or at new places. I do this because it is Who I Am and Who I Aspire To Be.
My transformation, creativity, and capacity to allow limitless possibilities and miracles for myself and others - for all that have generously given to me in my various endeavors professional and personal journey, who have mentored me, loved me, cared for me, and given me space to breathe; listen to my whining, watching me cry, and provided me with a blank canvas for me to draw anything I want. It matters to me to carry on their legacy. It's through their support that I can be "heard," "seen," and then"speak" to other's own greatness.